When i'm awake or try to sleep i know my eyes will always weep, it's happened since that tragic day when cancer took my soulmate away. Andy and I, we had such fun, he'll always be my number one but now i can not hold his hand, my life, no longer, can i stand. My heart is now completely shattered all is gone, that ever mattered. I miss his smell, his smile, his touch I loved you Andy, very much. I know I have to say goodbye rebuild my life, I now must try. So every day I paint on my smile and it fools most people for a while.
Sleep well
Babs xxxx
fellow traveller
thinking of you today, there are so many of us on this road but reading your messages helps.
One who knows!
I lost my husband Mick on the 19th January 09 and after my niece suggested I click on your website I saw we were walking in the same shoes. Your page has helped me alot and for that I thank you Babs. Although we are a year apart in our loss, life is no easier for either of us. Take care, thinking of you today. xx
You have helped Babs x
I lost my most special uncle on Jan 19th 09 and we all felt so sad, when we clicked on your website with u talking to Andrew bout day to day events I cant begin to tell U what a help it was to me and my auntie - we wish u well Babs - thinking of u for 2moro, ur 2nd year of loss xx julie and ex edinburgh girl now down south x
fellow traveller
hi I wrote last year and i still pop in when i see andrews name coming up at the side .I will be thinking of you on the ninth.
Creeping up to your second passing
Days are drawing in and nerves are twitching and I dont really understand why.... I miss you every day not just the day you passed.
Shelley... me too pal xx
Babs x
Andy ........
Wish we could talk Love you always Shelley
scream and shout
Hello you xx
Having yet another one of those days... just want to scream at the top of my voice " whats your problem!!" Peoples worries and woes all seem so petty and trivial. Arguing with loved ones... at least they're still there to argue with. I miss you as much today as I did when you passed. As the holiday postcard says... wish you were here.
Love ya
Babs xx
Dear Babs
Been thinking of you a lot recently and Andy. Your right when you ask where has the time gone. It doesn't seem like years only weeks. Just know that I love you and i'm always here for you babes. Lets meet up soon.
Lots and lots of love Paulinexxxxxxxxxxxxx xxxxxxxxx
where does the time go?
This week has been hard, cant believe it's 2 years since Middy passed over and you were diagnosed.... also a year yesterday since wee coley bum went for his final sleep. Things not great at home just now, Rob needs you to look out for him and I could do with a wee hug. Cheers mate I felt the pressure on my shoulder as I wrote.... very weird! Got a card for Middy's mum n dad just to let them know I haven't forgotten and still miss the phone calls... let him know he was never a burdon and I did enjoy his company. Al is due home soon from his travels, so hopefully catch with both boys soon.
miss and luv ya xx
Always yours
Babs x
fighting on x
Hi you, messages are becoming few and far between but that doesn't mean I think of you any less, you know you're with me each and every minute of the day. Well I survived.... this time last year I struggled to cope with all the pressures of work etc and was concerned the same thing would happen again but here I am, still painting on the smile and getting through the day. It's funny that my war cry is now "Andy fought for life and would be angry if I wasted mine" So there you go, even in spirit you keep me going. love as always xx
Babs x
Heavy heart today
Hello you,
funny I've been really busy today but you've been in my thoughts so much. I think today I have made my mind up to put the house on the market, the time seems right and although your not here to do this with me, I know we had planned this for our future..... I miss you so much each and every day and still cant comprehend life without you but I know I have to follow our dreams and do whats right for me and our grandchildren. Could do with a cuddle and a nudge to give me the courage to do this but I know you're with me really xx
Forever yours
Babs xxxxx
sorry
What a day, been feeling sick for 4 days now and then to top off a bad day I snapped your willow tree..... devasted Andy but I have now potted another tree over your ashes so I hope you like it. Off to lie on the sofa feeling sorrow for myself again. Luv ya xx
Babs x
being grumpy again
hi you, one of those days again,I know I'm not doing great but cant help being nippy. Sometimes it feels like you've been forgotten and it makes me really upset. Laia is being Christened soon and I got mad that your mum hadn't been given an invite....as far as I'm concerned, she's Laia's great grandmother just as she is to Brandan. I know it wasn't intentional but it hurts to think of your side of the family being brushed aside. Also have had no input into the service, or venue so suppose I shouldn't expect any say in who's invited. See, nothing changed still a moody mare LOL xx tomorrow will be 2 years since Phil died so I dont suppose that has helped my mood any. Sent a card to Fiona and Eve to say I'm thinking of them both....
Speak to you soon, love as always
Babs xxxxxxx
visited NB today
Hey you, didn't think I could ever face going back to North Berwick again but today I took Janine and Brandan down to the beach for a wee while. Stayed at the far end, couldn't have passed your door and didn't want to see any familiar faces but happy to have gone. Still hurts as much as the day you passed, dont know if that will ever change.... miss ya partner xx
Wish you were here.
Hi you, been a bit tired, tetchy and weepy again. No real triggers, just trying to do too much and keep everybody happy but starting to flail. Today I recognised the awful feelings that led to me going off the rails last year.... heavy feeling in the chest, nausea and panic. I felt the walls closing in and the feeling of everyone wanting a piece of me....but hey!! I coped! Still wish with all my heart that we were still together and had our time all over again, life is just so unfair sometimes. well off for now xx
Babs x
Your on my mind today
Not that I dont think of you every day but today I've been thinking of you a lot.... Poor wee Brandan had chicken pox last week and Laia has her first cold but that aside everything and everyone else is fine. Missed you on my birthday, it's still hard to get my head round you never coming back and some days it's like I saw you only yesterday but then reality comes flooding back and it's like losing you all over again. Love sent from me to you, miss you grumpy xx
Babs xxxxx
feeling low
Hi you,
been off work for a few days with gastric flu...joy!
Feeling better now but it's funny that when you feel unwell, everything seems worse. I've been a bit weepy again but I know it's just because I feel yukky and tired. Popped over to see your mum but...surprise, she was out galivanting. She seriously never stops
Anyway just thought I'd pop in for a moan.
Luv ya xx
first week back
well first week back at work and I'm shattered. Today would have been Phil's birthday so slightly out of sorts thinking of Fiona and Eve. Cant believe it's nearly 2 years since he passed away too. Life is so unfair...My other friend Fee is also back in hospital, the chemo she received has damaged her heart, so look after her for me x
I've got both our wee grandkids tomorrow so will try and pop over and see your mum and Allan and introduce them to Laia..... god I miss you so much, you should be here to share these moments, Baby B is such a wee character, you'd really love him to bits.
Love ya
Babs xx
back in uk now
hi again from home, got back this afternoon and was met at the airport by Robbie, Heather and our new grand daughter Laia. She is gorgeous!! spoilt her already but hey.....what are we here for if not to spoil the grand children. Missed leaving you a candle everyday but you were in my thoughts as always....
Love ya xx Babs xx
howdy
well hi from florida, we've been to both universal parks, today we were at a disney park and tomorrow off to busch gardens.... very hot today,so you can imagine how happy I was..not!
Anyway, doesn't matter where I am or what I'm doing, your still on my mind.....love as always xx
Babs xx
Off for a wee break
Well trouble, I'm off to florida tomorrow for a wee break with my brother and the kids so wont be online for a while but please know you are with me every minute of every day and I'll be thinking of you.
Love you
Babs xx
LOL xx
families OMG!!....you know what I mean.
Think of me when you stop slapping your thighs. xx
Bx
wish i could speak to you
Hi huney, cant get out the bit just now. So much to do and more than enough time to do it, just not enough energy to actually get it together. Miss just sitting having a blether at the end of the day about something and nothing. Dont get me wrong, there are people around all the time, they're just not you. I miss you so much and have you photo with me always but I realised today that I cant remember your voice.....just something else that is gone forever. I lose a wee bit more of you every day and I cant stand it...... there you go, rant over for another day.
Miss and love you
Babs xx
wishing you were here x
Hello you,
well time is marching on and I just seem to be going with the flow. So much is happening, Rob n Hez baby due a week on Monday and I'm getting ready to fly off to Orlando in 2 weeks time with Clint and the kids. Eventually got a call from the grief counsellors ... only taken them a year to tell me I'm nearly at the top of the list....and this is suppost to help how!! Well I think after all this time I have come to terms with the fact you're never going to come bouncing in the door ever again. The tears still come on a regular basis but i think this is healthy and I remember our happy times more than your short illness, you gave me lots to smile about...love always xx
Babs
Just thinking of you.
Hi you, I'm so tired at the moment. Been really busy decorating for Rob n Hez but worth it as the nursery is looking great and ready for their wee one when ever he/she decides to make an entrance into this world.
Wee Wendy is a granny now, Chaz had a wee girl called Sienna the other day, just a shame her uncle Blue couldn't be here to meet her
Well signing off for now, love n miss you as always xx
Babs x
Strange day
Hi trouble, not sure how I feel at the moment. One minute I'm fine and the next I feel the lump in my chest and just feel very emotional. No particular reason, just missing you and our chats.
Rob n Hez's baby is due in 4 weeks, so your second grandchild will be around to fill my days.
Still wish I could turn back the clock and bring you back because I feel so cheated that our time was cut short as there was so much we should have done for us instead of putting everyone else's needs first....thing is I know we wouldn't change a thing if we had our time again. Ok rant over....love n miss you
Babs xxxxxx
Happy Birthday
Wish you were here to say it in person....auld yin xx
Miss you so much
Babs xxxx
sad day....
Hello trouble, missing you a lot today. Stuart and Freya came through yesterday and your bike left on the back of a trailer. Admit to shedding more than a few tears as it drove away as it's the last big thing of yours to go. Brandan was quite cute as always .... andads bike,byebyeandads motorbike repeated more than a few times!! Also moved your willow tree over to Robbies new house. They moved in yesterday and their new addition is due in 5 weeks so glad they're settled, look over them for me xx
Love and miss you as always
Babs xxxxxxx
memories
They say memories are golden well maybe that is true. I never wanted memories, I only wanted you.
A million times I needed you, a million times I cried. If love alone could have saved you you never would have died.
In life I loved you dearly, In death I love you still. In my heart you hold a place no one will ever fill.
If tears could build a stairway and heartache make a lane, I'd walk the path to heaven and bring you back again.
Our family chain is broken, and nothing seems the same. But as God calls us one by one, the chain will link again.
Love Babs xx
memories
Remembering you with fondest love xxxx
from me to you
HI Babs, I have just read this tribute site for Andy and it has really touched me as I too lost my husband Gerard in July 2006 from SCLC. When I saw the photos of Andy in hospital it reminded me so much of Gerard. Sometimes I feel the loss of Gerard more today than I did 2 years ago, with every passing day it only makes me realise what our little boy and I have lost. Everytime I see young families enjoying themselves or just a couple sharing a hug or kiss I can feel my heart tighten and at times feel like screaming why did this happen to us. I know life goes on but god its so hard at times. The greatest gift Gerard ever give me was Matthew, and the meaning of Matthew is "Gift from The Lord" how true those words are.
You are in my thoughts and prayers.
Yvonnex
1st anniversary xx
Hi Andy, its only pest here. I'm just in from work and spent most of it wondering what to say on this sad 1st anniversary. I heard this song and I can only imagine that this is what Babz must have tortured herself with in her head so I'm hoping you both won't mind. Love'n'miss you loads Debz + co xxxxxxxxx Seems like it was yesterday that I saw your face-You told me how proud you were but I walked away. If only I knew-what I know today- I would hold you in my arms- I would take your pain away- thank you for all you've done-forgive all your mistakes. There's nothing I wouldn't do,to hear your voice again. Sometimes I want to call you but I know you wont be there..I'm sorry for blaming you-for everything-I just couldn't doand I've hurt myself- by hurting you...Somedys I feel broken inside-but wont admit it. Sometimes I just wanna hide cos its you I miss..and its so hard to say goodbye-when it comes to this.Would you tell me I was wrong? Would you make me understand?Are you loking down upon me?Are you proud of who I am? There's nothing I wouldn't do-just to have just one more chance-to look into your eyes and see you looking back...I'm sorry for blaming you- For everything,I just couln't do and I've hurt myself..If I had just one more day-I would tell you how much I've missed you since you went away..ooh its dangerous,its so very hard-to mend time. I'm sorry for blaming you, for everything, I just couldn't do. And I've hurt myself....By hurting you xxxxxxx
memories....
Hi you, well I'm escaping at Killin this week. This time last year we'd taken you into the Western and been told you were very poorly. I never thought our time would go so quickly but I knew in my heart you'd had enough. You fought so hard to stay and still managed to make me laugh on your final days....cheeky to the end. Well nearly a year already and the time has seriously just disappeared. Love you truly, hug from your wee man Brandan. xx
Babs xxxxxx
Thank you
It's funny, you dont think of others reading these messages but thank you elizabeth and sorry you are on this road also.
8 days and the first year has come to an end....where has the time gone?
A new widow
following your journey mine started 19sept. you write what i feel thinking of you on the 9th,
Always in my thoughts
Hi trouble, cant believe we're 1 month away from your first anniversary. You have been in my thoughts even more than normal. Going through some funny memories of days out on the bike and weekends away. Camping with the kids and walks along the beach and then I drift back to this time last year when you were fighting so hard to stay with us. Sorry I couldn't wave a magic wandand take your pain away. Heading up to Killin to spend some time with my memories and remembering where we used to wander.... miss you sooo much
Babs xxx
Hi you....
Well Christmas over and yes I survived, smiled when required and joined in as best I could. Everyone enjoyed themselves and Clint came up with the kids and we went to winter wonderland. Debbie ended up getting x-rays after fallen on the ice but nothing broken. Natz was the only other casualty but nothing serious.... Well new years eve tomorrow and all I can wish for is a better 2009. Too much hurt in 2008 to toast the end, so I'll stay in with your wee man and let it slip quietly away. Love n hugs as always.
Babs xxxxxxxxx
xmas wish
Hi baby,
well Christmas is nearly here and all I really want is you.....guess that's one wish that wont come true! Love you, miss you xx
Babs x
Merry Christmas
Hello there Andy Pandy, I know I won't be on over xmas so I thought I'd send my thoughts and wishes to you early. Its not going to be an easy one but Babz is trying to let everyone think she's coping well and cheerful but I'm sure you're watching over her and know the truth too...Send her huge hugs as she misses them big time... Take care up there and god bless loads of love "the pest" xxxxxxx
I dont know how I'm meant to feel
Hey you, the boys popped round today and it was lovely to see them butI'm just feeling a bit numb. I finished up at work today and it was a relief to walk out and know I dont have to pretend to smile and be be in the xmas spirit with everyone else. miss you every minute of every day. Love and miss you grumpy xx
Babs xx
10 months and another funeral
Hi baby, uncle Jimmy was buried today, didn't know how I would get through it but had to be there for mum survived but feel drained. Dreading christmas without you but your wee man Brandan will keep me going. Love n hugs
Babs x
Some good news
Just thought you should know that Allan passed his driving test today, so chuffed for him. Dropped him off to collect your car from the garage....he was smiling from ear to ear. Still wish I could tell you face to face.....love you xx
sold your bike today
Thought you'd be pleased to know your baby has gone to none other than your cousin Stu....Like me, he didn't like to think of a stranger riding your BMW. Sad to see it go but glad it's still in the family.
Wish you were here xx Babs xx
Miss you
Hi andy, went to the Royal today to see dad as he's had his op at last, he's doing great but also went to see uncle Jimmy and he is very poorly....it broke my heart yet again to see mum looking so helpless holding her brothers hand. It brings my pain surging back to the surface. Wish his pain was over although he will be a big loss as were you but enough is enough as you know. Look over him for me. Love and miss you.
Babala xx
HI again x
Hi there Andy Pandy, Hope you're behaving up there and taking care of coley.... I think pepsi misses him as much as Babz misses you I'm still being a pain in the ..... as much as Babz can tolerate anyway,,,, She grows stronger a wee bit at a time but it never lessens the pain or how deeply you're so missed. ( andby us all)I'm so amazed with your boys- they're so strong in many ways.. It's been a hellish year for all but so amazed at how quickly time passes by..Take care and send Babz loads of hugs and strenghth to get her through the festive period. Thinking of you always love Debz the pest xxxx
10months seem to have disappeared.
I know I cant live in the past but it still feels like yesterday you were sitting here with me. I miss you so much, not only for the laughs, company and support. I miss your smell, your cold feet and tripping over your boots!! I miss you sneaking up behind me and wrapping your arms around me. Time is slipping by and I dont even notice..... miss n love you xx
Babs xxxxx
thinking of you xx
Freezing outside, wrapped in a blanket with the fire on and the lights down low.... perfect except you're not here. I miss you xx
Coley coming to stay
Hey baby, wee Coley went for his last sleep today. Think he missed you as much as me and needed you around to cuddle him. Look after him for me.
Love you forever
Babs n Pepsi xxxxx
just a thought!
Hi huney,
just thinking about this time last year.... Middy left this world and you were diagnosed with lung cancer. Time has flew in and I cant believe whats happened. Was at a funeral on Tuesday in your chapel, I wasn't great but I survived so things are on the up. Miss you so much but know you'd had enough so can only say thank you for our time together and I'll see you some day. love you xx
Babs xxxxx
another day..
Hey huney, well I seem to be back on track what ever that means, been back at work for a few days and after the initial tears and fear of the unknown, I'm doing ok. Still expect you to walk in every single day, don't think that will ever change, so hope you're still close by to keep me company. Baby B still kissing your photo, so sweet, just wish you were here to see him grow up!
Love you
Babs xxxxxx
Hi Andy Pandy!
Hi just thought we would send you a wee message as i have been awful quiet of late. (bet you miss my blethering) NOT!! Trying very hard to keep babs going but just one day at a time and wee Brandans a scream. We mention you and he always looks up for you. Thinking and talking of you often everyday like usual. Hope your being good up there and not causing too much trouble. Look after babsyboo for us all and just wishing that we could have changed the outcome on what happened.
we all miss you dearly each and everyday lods of love Debs and co x x x x x x
Hi babe x
Hi huney, just a wee note to say, feeling much brighter this last week. Had baby B at the weekend, he's a wee cracker and really cheers me up. Hope you see him when I say where's grandad, he looks up at the sky and waves.....
Mark moved into his new flat today and it is really lovely, Allan helped to move his stuff so it was nice to see them both but Al needs to shave....hmmmn!
Anyway love and miss you xx Babs xx
could use a bit of help buddy...
Hi huney, if you're watching from up there, I'm sorry for being a greeting face wimp. I just cant get my head around you not being here. Why cant things be as they were, we deserved more time and now I feel so lost and alone.
Need you to look after Fiona, she has B/cancer and starts treatment on Monday....complete nightmare, she only got married 4 weeks ago!! Say hi to middy for me.
Love you forever x Babs x
hi from London
Hi baby,
down at Clints for a wee break away from the mayhem, seems strange being here without you.....even if you did leave rather abrubtly the last time we were here LOL xx Think about you everyday and nothing seems to matter quite as much anymore. Miss & love you.
Babs xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Please be their for My dad,
Andy can pleaseHelp...
My dear pain in the butt Dadis alittle Un well ,, please look down on him and pretect him,,,
its the Summer time and everytime I hear a motor bike on my streetI still look out the window looking for your silly wave and smile
Tammy X
wish you were here xx
Hi trouble,
Been a hard week, with lots of tears. Nicky came over and we talked about you for quite a while and cousin Stu popped down but I missed him. Strange how when i'm low, people call to ask how I'm doing.... Kids are all away on holiday this week, so enjoying the peace and quiet but would much rather share it with you. Miss you every second of every day. Luv ya forever xx your Babala xxxx
Hi you x
I thought of you with love today but that is nothing new I thought about you yesterday and days before that too,
I think of you in silence I often speak your name All I have are memories and your picture in a frame
Your memory is my keepsake with which I’ll never part God has you in His keeping I have you in my heart.
Love and miss you
Babs x
send me strength
Sorry Andy, dont know what to do without you, my heart is broken and the pain is too much.... I've cried a river of tears and they're still flowing endlessly. I wish I could say things were improving but it's quite the opposite, I miss you more every day and am struggling to find reasons to keep going. Love you so much.
Babs xxxxxxx
12 weeks
Sorry A, 12 weeks and 1 day and I'm having a really bad day..... so tired and snappy! Just shouted at R for no particular reason except I'm miserable and wanted to lash out. Love n miss you so much, my life is shattered....this is so unfair xx
11 weeks on
Hey you, cant believe you've been gone 11weeks already. I still expect you to walk up the hall with your clumpy boots on and it breaks my heart that it can never be again. I miss you so much and no matter how hard I try to smile and get on with my daily tasks, I just cant help thinking of the things we should be doing together. Hope you're behaving.Love as always
Babs xxxxxx
Andy's tree
As Andy somervilles life has ended
His ashes with the soil are blended
Giving life to a lovely tree
planted by Babs for all to see
This weeping willow grows healthy and strong
and will be by her side
her whole life long.....
Good night Andy
Love Kay and Bill
Hi huney xx
Hi trouble, planted your trees today and placed your ashes in with each one. One with me at home where you belong and the other beside your dad, so you can look after your mum and the boys. Sorry still cant stop the tears, just cant believe you wont walk through the door and shout hello. Miss you so much it hurts. All my love xx Babs xx
from me to you xx
God saw you getting weary and a cure was not to be He put his arms around you and whispered "come to me" So keep your arms around him god and give him special care Make up for all he suffered and all that seemed unfair It broke my heart to lose you but you did not go alone, for part of me went with you, the day god called you home xx
need you and miss you, Babs xx
miss you..
Hi Andy
missing you more each day and finding it hard to smile anymore. Love you forever in my heart.
Sleep tight
Babs xx
Happy Birthday Andy :)xx
Babz. Take comfort in knowing that now you have a special guardian angel to watch over you. Happy Birthday Andy, on the 27th. Lots of love Debs Dean Emma & Mark xxxxxx
Goodnite Andy, sleep well xxx
Miss you every minute, cant believe you've left us so soon. Love you my grumpy troll xxxxxx
Babs xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
A Family Friend.
The loss of someone so close is difficult to bear and we share your grief, at such a sad time.
Andy was a family Friend who will always be in our hearts with fond filled memories.
For Andy x
fellow traveller
One who knows!
You have helped Babs x
fellow traveller
Creeping up to your second passing
Andy ........
scream and shout
Dear Babs
where does the time go?
fighting on x
Heavy heart today
sorry
being grumpy again
visited NB today
Wish you were here.
Your on my mind today
feeling low
first week back
back in uk now
howdy
Off for a wee break
LOL xx
wish i could speak to you
wishing you were here x
Just thinking of you.
Strange day
Happy Birthday
sad day....
memories
memories
from me to you
1st anniversary xx
memories....
Thank you
A new widow
Always in my thoughts
Hi you....
xmas wish
Merry Christmas
I dont know how I'm meant to feel
10 months and another funeral
Some good news
sold your bike today
Miss you
HI again x
10months seem to have disappeared.
thinking of you xx
Coley coming to stay
just a thought!
another day..
Hi Andy Pandy!
Hi babe x
could use a bit of help buddy...
hi from London
Please be their for My dad,
wish you were here xx
Hi you x
send me strength
12 weeks
11 weeks on
Andy's tree
Hi huney xx
from me to you xx
miss you..
Happy Birthday Andy :)xx
Goodnite Andy, sleep well xxx
A Family Friend.